Sexual intimacy

 The differences between man and woman are many, some of them are more obvious than others to the point that is known and talks by everyone. Other differences are more hided or even considered taboo. The one that we are been discussed today is intimacy or sex. The way we are going to approach this is by seeing the difference between man and woman in this topic, and the opportunities that come with this beautiful experience. 

Some of the differences will create problems if they are not treated, but some of them might be opportunities for progress. Several of those differences are related to the climax, arousal, and even chemical presence in our nervous system. We know that men are usually more prompted to reach the climax at a faster rate than their counter-type. The men feel arousal more frequently, which means they would want to have sexual intimacy more frequently than women. The climax is harder for women to achieve, but they can repeat that experience in shorter intervals.  The chemistry happening in that moment of sexual intimacy is also different, men will present different chemicals and therefore different feelings, while women have the same case. The woman will segregate chemicals like dopamine and oxytocin among others, which creates pleasure and bonding. Intimacy creates a special moment for bonding for the woman, which in the right situation is a blessing because they are connecting with their spouse. But that could be the reason for problems in the wrong situation. For example, if a woman has several sexual companions during their life, especially if they are one-night stands, they will present more depression, loss, anxiety, and mental health problems caused for the lacking of a relationship that welds the bond created for the chemical. When in the other hand, men do not have the chemical so they do not feel as attached, that does not mean they can not create a bond. But that could be one reason why they are looking for several sexual companions in the world. 

The opportunities are many and great in this topic. Sometimes we think, about how God made man so different from the woman in the sexual territory. Like why did he make a man much quicker to reach climax? I think there is a beautiful opportunity in that difference. That brings the man the chance to be more thoughtful and drive to his wife. Now because of that, you can make sexual intimacy a much more beautiful thing, it can be more about love and both of you instead of how I have pleasure.

The simple fact of having differences and talking about them and progress gives them every opportunity to reach more divine attributes like love, altruism, service, among others. This will create the habit of fixing inconveniences in many other areas of life. 

As long as we see sexual intimacy as something sacred instead of secret, we will be able to change for the better. If husband and wife can discuss together what sexual intimacy means, and how frequent they want to have, or how to improve it, what things to avoid, they will for sure find the peace that resides while discussing sacred topics in marriage.