Gender and who we are.

 To talk about this topic I would like to approach it differently first. It is in the nature of humankind to try to understand what is true and what is a lie. We like to categorize what is good and what is bad because that will influence a lot in the way we behave, and also how we treat others. The problem with that is that we end up doing it wrong sometimes because we do not have all the information or we try to look for answers in a not accurate way. I am not claiming that I have all the knowledge, but I feel I have been able to feel and see the truth from several things. The reason why I approach this topic like this is that in the last two or three decades, humankind has been way more interested in finding the truth of where gender comes from. And as I said is a natural thing to try to find the reality in those questions. Is gender assigned before we are born? is it something fluid that we can mold? I will try to approach this with my own knowledge.

Gender is the group of characteristics and behaviors and roles that are assigned to men and women. they can be classified biologically or in many other ways, but it will point out that is something we do not get to form or create at our will. We also know for studies that character or temper is 50% to 60% percent genetically. If we are introverted or extroverted if we get angry or we get emotional is also attached to that. On the other hand, personality is constructed from ideas, social experiences, and decisions along with our lives. The mind is a powerful organ, the only inconvenience is that is like a new white paper, which can be written. Now that does not sound like a problem, right? but what happens if I tell you that you can barely write on your paper, it actually takes a lot of discipline to learn how to write on your paper independently from the external factors. And even worst is extremely easy for other people to write on other people's papers. The way they teach you, the way they act around you and treat other people or even you, the way they appreciate or bully you, the way they connect with you or not, and many other things end up molding you and creating ideas in you that you may have not wanted. Most mental illnesses are related to that.  

There are some tendencies that are common in genders. In the case of males, some of them are competitive, spatial awareness, aggressivity. For the females some are: Emotional expressions, tend to care about people more than objects, nurturing, among others. That does not mean that if a guy feels those are wrong, or vice versa. The problem is that when everyone is exposed to different kinds of scenarios in life and if you present those things that could be uncommon for your gender you might find people that diminish you for that or bully you for being like that. And one of the first things they will say is that you are just gay. So for years, you start accumulating thoughts deep in your mind that that is how you are perceived by other people and maybe that is how you are. Eventually, you start accepting it and later embracing it. We can see in research that shows cultures where males that are not bullied for having those common gender features, are less likely to have homosexual people in their communities. The main thing I am saying is that gender is natural for people. But the distortion of that is a social construction. I believe that people should create families of the opposite sex gender. I love and support people with same-sex attraction, but I do not support that idea.